Monday, March 13, 2017

Rough Day In The Mommyhood

Let me start by saying that at this very moment I feel that the solution to my problem is a seducing long stemmed goblet of luscious red wine.  Unfortunately I do not drink so no escape there.  However that is exactly what I feel I want - to escape.

Rough day raising kids
This pic says it all.  At the end of the day you are all looking crazy and perplexed and your kid(s) is bright
 and perky looking like what's next Mommy?!  In your mind you want to say, "Go sit down somewhere!"

Honestly, I'm tired. Mentally worn. The culmination of everything going on in my life has hit me.  For the last year hubby has been in grad school. What with assignments, 12 hour shift clinicals and 12 hour shifts working full time, Yeah, he's barely holding on but for Jesus.  Then for me the back flips of being a stay at home, homeschooling mom, not having family near and maybe some hormones, lol, have taken a toll on me.
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Princess Talkalicous is good.  She is a driven, intelligent, bright light who entered the world embodying the principal of no is never final and all things are negotiable.  Her strong will and determination are admirable and needed but sometimes I just wish she would stop for goodness sake.  Everything is a battle.  She used to say that she couldn't wait until she was five because then she would be a teenager and no one would be able to tell her what to do.  Well, recently she turned five and to her dismay she is not a teenager and Mommy is still telling her what to do.

All jokes aside, today was rough!

As I write this note it is many hours past bedtime.   I can hear Princess singing to her bedtime CD ever so gently.  Most of what I wanted to achieve today did not happen.  I want to shout in there, "Go to sleep", but there have been too many raised voices, frustration and tears on both sides today.  So I resolve to reach deep, and I do mean deep, and extend love and grace to her once again.

Tonight I pray, center myself and rest.

Tomorrow I rise positively looking for better and start again.

In the meantime... Moms Night Out! ...anyone?


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Saturday, March 4, 2017

What Are Instant Locs?

It has been three weeks since my locs were installed and after observing my pics many of you commented that my locs looked fully formed already.  Well.... actually they are.  Instead of starting with two strand twists, comb or finger coils, I started my locs with instant locs.  Instant locs leaves you with fully formed loc with no shrinkage. Whaaaa....? Yes!

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So to help you understand what I mean I'm going to show you the exact video my loctician used to explain the process to me.

I hoped that helped?

So armed with my requests of slightly smaller than pencil width locs and no tension hair line my loctian got to work and...

Have your questions about instant locs answered.


I think, between my loctician and I, we made the best choices for my hair type and lifestyle needs. I am very happy with my results and my installation experience.

Finding the right loctician was critical.  Here are 5 tips for finding the right loctician.

I look forward to seeing my hair flourish over the next few months!


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5 Tips For Finding The Right Loctician

So you want to get your hair loc'd.  You've been thinking about locing your hair for years and now you are ready to join the #loclife!  All that is left to do is find the right Loctician!

Tips on how to find the right loctician.

You may be ready but how do you go about finding that special person that can bring you loc vision to life?  Here are a few ideas that I have on the subject from my experiences with the wrong and the right loctician.

1. Educate Yourself 
Know or at least have a general idea of what type of locs you want.  As there are so many different types of locs from free form to sister locs. Additionally their are many different installation processes as well.  To name a few there is two strand twist which I used for my first set of locs.  There are finger/comb coils, crochet, interlocking and instant locs which is what I decided to loc with this go around.  More on Instant Locs here.

You may want to have a look at Pinterest for inspiration.  Also search for a whole host of vbloggers and locticians providing you with more information than you can imagine.  By the time you finish with your search you will be thoroughly informed.

2. Ask Around
If you have friends who have locs you admire, ask them about their experiences with their loctician to determine if they might be a good fit for you.

Also check to see if your current stylist knows of someone who would be suitable for you based on your wants and needs.  This is how I found my loctician.  After talking with my stylist about my past loc fail and what I was currently looking for she, even though she does locs, was able to recommend me to a loctician within the same salon.  Asking around paid off and turned out to be very convenient for me.

Asking friends what they would do differently knowing what they now know about locs is also extremely valuable.  Who doesn't like a free and easy resource.

3. Ask For A Consult 
Don't be afraid to ask for a consult before deciding on a particular loctician.  On that consult you want to know what they will charge to loc your hair type and length in the loc technique you are considering.  You don't want any surprises.  You also want to know whether that price includes a follow up appointment, a shampoo, a re-twisting or styling at a later date.  Be sure to ask all the questions you need to feel confident about your choice.

During your consult don't feel shy about asking to see some pics of the loctician's work.  Locing your hair is not cheap and it is not outside of reason to ask to see proof of their skill and ability.

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4. Don't Be Anxious
I find that whenever I get that just can't wait feeling,  that is the time I need to wait.  Locing your hair is a commitment of time and money.  There are lots of stories out there of people jumping in to quickly only to find out the services they received are not what they expecting or worse, damaging to their hair. Myself included!  Take your time in finding the right loctician for you.

5. Do You Like Their Vibe
This tip might seem unusual but it is very real.  You will be in close quarters with this person, most likely, in their environment for long periods of time.  You don't need to be best buddies with the person but you would want to know that you can you get along with this person.  You want to be comfortable being in their presence.  Alright with them touching you and that you are you OK with the vibe of the salon or the location, smoke - music selection - conversation?

I had a tapered cut (short hair) and it took almost 20 hours over a period of five days to have instant locs installed.  Imagine if I wasn't ok with the surroundings?!

Well there are my tips.  I'm sure there are many other things I could have included but these are what stood out to me for me as I prepared to begin my loc journey.

Wishing you the best experience possible with happy and healthy locs that leave you feeling amazing!


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