Friday, March 11, 2016

What I Learned The First Week Of Homeschool


When I wrote We Survived The First Week Of Homeschool I had never interacted with the online homeschooling community other than to ask a few questions of some seasoned parents.  The outpouring of support and encouragement has been tremendous.  THANK YOU!!  Thanks so much for the well wishes and for getting to hear from the parents who preserved and now have graduating homeschoolers, so very encouraging. Thank you.

Jumping in the water of homeschooling, I must admit I was very timid. However, I must confess that now that I'm in, and a few weeks have passed, I'm actually starting to relax and enjoying myself.  Clearly that was not the case during our first week, but you live and you learn.  Here are three lessons I learned from the experiences of the our first week in homeschool.

It's Not About Me
Ever since my child has been born, I have been having a recurring lesson.  The lesson is "It Is Not About Me".  Quite an unusual concept for a single child and only child in the entire family for 18 years who was married for 13 years before having my one and only.  Can you get the picture I'm trying to paint?  Everything has always been about me or so it seemed.  So now to have to be concerned about my offsprings' interests over mine should be natural as a mother but sometimes that is not the case.  I am an awesome Mom, but sometimes I confuse what my daughter needs with what I want for her.  So the lesson continues into homeschooling.

I recounted to you in Part 1  how over a pain staking period of time I had prepared and planned for our homeschool adventure together.  So imagine the hurt and upsetment I encountered when my daughter refused to cooperate after only three days.  I was so upset at the rejecting of our plans that I couldn't even console her in her upsetment and I remained so that it disrupted my sleep.  Did she not understand all the work and effort that I went through to present this to her? How could she be so ungrateful?

No. This is why I stated in the companion post that hubby is a wise man.  He zeroed in immediately that I was offended and that I was mistaken in my belief that she was rejecting my efforts on purpose. He went on to explain that with her limited understanding could she really conceive all that we do for her particularly as it relates to homeschooling or anything else for that matter.   Intellectually, I didn't need him to explain any of that to me.  I knew it already, but having him explain the way he did allowed me to  put my ego to rest and release the grudge, yes grudge, I was holding against my four year old.  Parenting is soooo emotional!!!

Homeschooling Is Not A Work Project

I love project management.  There is something about pulling together and creating resources, working through the problems, perfecting and evaluating a project that excites me.  Creating something out of nothing.  In many ways project management is very similar to homeschooling and the skill sets have helped me get our homeschool up and running, but there is one thing that is very different very different that I did not anticipate.  The human component.

When I work a project its all about the manipulation of tactile resources in which I can order about.  Homeschooling is different in that I am working with a live human, my flesh and blood.  One in which I have determined will be a free thinker and analytical.  In turn, she thinks with confidence questions everything.  There is no blind following by this personality type yet she is tender and sensitive. In turn I have to be intentionally creative to garner her participation. My "let's just get it done" attitude doesn't work in this environment which pushes me to reevaluate my approach and demeanor to homeschool teaching. Patience and flexibility are calling my name. 

Allow For Transition
Remember the GIANT mistake I made when Princess expressed her concerns towards my new role as teacher and not the fun craft mommy?  I brushed off her concerns to satisfy my desire to execute.  It was not a wise decision as you find out as you read on.  What I learned from that portion of the experience is that I need to slow down.  Skip the time lines and blocks and just find our own flow.  So now what I used to pack into a week I now let spill over into two weeks.

Another transition tool was Miss Tanya.  Remember her?  She is my daughter's PMO teacher. Instead of getting my panties in a bunch, when my daughter expressed that she preferred Miss Tanya as a teacher over me, I went and solicited Miss Tanya's advice.  She is an instructor that gets good results from her students, why not have a closer look into how she does things?  One piece of advice she gave us was to create our activities around stations about our homeschool as opposed to trying to get a toddler to sit still for long periods of time.  It also simulated how the PMO classroom is laid out which would give her a sense of familiarity.  She was right.  Her advice has helped tremendously. Thanks Miss Tanya!

Basically, homeschooling seems to have morphed into my personal development project.  Lol, I had no clue it would be taking this route, but I'm willing to put the work in so that I can create a fun and creative learning environment for my very bright, intelligent, always negotiating, independent daughter. One which she looks forward to returning to each day.  

The weeks are passing smoother now, but not without stumbles.  On week three there was partial break down.  Part of the outburst included a statement about my not dressing cute for school like Miss Tanya.  OMG, now I have to bring my apparel game up too?  But on the serious, what she was trying to express was when she is in school everyone is dressed up.  Her, the other kids and Miss Tanya.  How could she know we are doing school work and not just playing around at home if she nor I were dressed up? It was a very good point and by taking time out to understand and acknowledge what she was saying, right there and then I was able to respond to her comments to her satisfaction.  We made a pact that there would be some kind of signal as to when we were homeschooling and when we were just hanging out.  After that discussion were able to continue on with our day easily.

There have been a lot of lessons to learn.  From the material to personally and discoveries about my daughter and I'm sure there will be many more lessons coming in the immediate future.   Honestly,  I'm just looking forward to merging Teacher Mommy and Fun Mommy.

(Why these last few paragraphs are red I have no idea.  So sorry!) 
If you would like to read the companion post to "What I learned The First Week Of Homeschool", please follow the link to "We Survived The First Week Of Homeschool".  

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Friday, February 26, 2016

Beautiful, Creative and Inspired Link Up #26

Welcome to the Party! We are live and ready to see all the amazing posts you have been working on all week. I have some great features for you and your family and one of them involves pranks on the kids.

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It's the last few days of the heart health giveaway so if you haven't entered to win this FitBit Alta don't delay.  You can enter here.

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I have never been able to make a poached egg.  In this post Jacky of  Nom Recipes shares her non-vinegar technique that looks so easy I'm convinced I can do it!

Wishing for adventure on the high seas this summer with the family but don't know where to start?  Elaine of  Ramblings of a (Bad) Domestic Goddess can point you in the right direction.

April's Fool is coming and nows the time to get back at the pests in you life with one or two of these pranks from Teach Mama.

Morgan Manages Mommyhood got me on this one with a healthier twist of peanut butter cups.  Um!

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Friday, February 19, 2016

Beautiful, Creative & Inspired Link Up #25

Welcome to The Beautifully Creative and Inspired Link Party - this is a weekly party where bloggers and readers can be inspired by creative, informative and fun posts from tons of blogs around the web. You will find yummy recipes, awesome creative projects and many more. It is also a great way to meet and mingle with bloggers you find here. New bloggers are always welcomed!

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How I Changed Our Health Story
This is my first guest post and I couldn't be any more pleased.  This is Lisa Nelson's of story of how she changed the direction of her family's health.  It is a testament of the power that a mother has the power to stir her family in the right direction.  At the end of the post Lisa included a not to be missed bonus post: 5 Reasons It Is Important To Do The Hard Work.

Hope you like this week's post.  Please leave a comment and let me know what you think! 

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There were a lot of great posts this week, but this is how I narrowed it down.

Grammie Time had a great post "Five Annual Exams For Women"  It was an excellent reminder that while we are taking care of others we must remember to take care of ourselves.

Stacie of had a great twist on an American classic - Indian Meatloaf.  I will be trying this for two reasons.  Meatloaf is a staple in my house and I love Indian food.

The Crafty Blog Stalker has an Easy Tape Manicure tutorial that even I could do.  

And lastly, Ginger Snaps just because I'm addicted to them.  Recipe by 2 Kids And Tired Cooks.

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